How to Use This Tool
People are pretty bad at identifying their true feelings. When asked about our feelings, most people will usually say they feel: bad, sad, mad, good, or fine. But underneath “good, bad, sad, mad, or fine” are many words that better describe how we feel. Taking the time to slow down and identify what we are really experiencing can help us feel better and can improve our communication and relationships with others.
Once you identify what you’re really feeling, it might give you insight into how to ask for what you really need. For example. I feel mad. But what I’m really feeling is vulnerable, unworthy, or unsafe. What I need because I feel worthy is for you to say “it’s not your fault and I love you” so I can feel better.
If I stopped at mad, I might not be able to find out how to really address the negative things I’m feeling.
About The Creator
Mental Health America (MHA) – founded in 1909 – is the nation’s leading community-based nonprofit dedicated to addressing the needs of those living with mental illness and to promoting the overall mental health of all Americans. Our work is driven by our commitment to promote mental health as a critical part of overall wellness, including prevention services for all; early identification and intervention for those at risk; integrated care, services, and supports for those who need it; with recovery as the goal.
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