Everyone deals with strong emotions, especially negative ones.\u00a0 This could be dealing with a disappointment at work or breaking up with a partner. You are not alone in these experiences and how they may make you feel out of control.<\/p>\n
Strong emotions can come up even when something small happens. For example, if someone is playfully sarcastic with you, it may remind you of how your mom always responded to you with sarcasm.\u00a0 And she didn\u2019t take you seriously. So you become extremely angry.<\/p>\n
It can be really hard to pause and acknowledge these things.\u00a0 Especially when you\u2019re balancing other things in life, like relationships, friendships, a job, and health, to name a few. But learning how to manage your emotions<\/a> is always possible.<\/p>\n Triggers are events that happen that make you feel big emotions, even if the big emotion might not fit the event.<\/p>\n For example, if you hear a loud explosion, like fireworks, and feel extreme terror, this feeling may not match the situation because the fireworks are unlikely to harm you. But, if you experienced an explosion that put your life or others\u2019 lives in danger, then fireworks could be a trigger for the terror you felt during that explosion.<\/p>\n Sometimes, it can be hard to pinpoint what you\u2019re feeling if it\u2019s been a long time since you felt your emotions or if you tend to push them down.<\/p>\n Thinking about the example above, maybe feeling the terror was so scary that now when you hear fireworks, you don\u2019t know why you\u2019re reacting so fearfully because you\u2019ve pushed the emotions so far away. It makes sense to do this when an emotion feels too painful or we need to bury the emotion so we can get through the situation, day, etc.<\/p>\n When we don\u2019t deal with our emotions, we might:<\/p>\n Long periods of just reacting to your emotions or stuffing them down can make it difficult to start to identify when and why you\u2019re feeling things so strongly, but not impossible.<\/p>\n Strong feelings are sometimes not just experienced in the mind, but also in the body. For example, you may experience sweating, muscle tension, fatigue, exhaustion, upset stomach, and more. You may also experience various sensations and feelings that carry weight, like grief, sadness, loss, and disappointment.<\/p>\n Some possible mental health conditions that can make people react strongly to different things are depresi\u00f3n<\/a>, ansiedad<\/a>, trastorno por estr\u00e9s postraum\u00e1tico<\/a>, trastorno por estr\u00e9s postraum\u00e1tico complejo<\/a>, trastorno bipolar<\/a>, o borderline personality disorder<\/a>.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n It can be easy to get lost in the past or in the space of reacting. But learning your personal red flags\u2014like more irritability, crying at small things, or saying things you don\u2019t mean\u2014can help you identify the big feelings and get back into a calmer mindset.<\/p>\n Remember, even if you react in a way you don\u2019t want to, we have the power to learn from our mistakes and react differently moving forward.<\/p>\n Here are some ways we can do this:<\/p>\n Ultimately, it\u2019s important to have compassion for ourselves and others during this process. Finding a safe space to let out your emotions can help. This could be in the privacy of your bedroom, bathroom, journal, with a friend, outside, or by crying, screaming, or yelling.<\/p>\n It may be helpful to ask yourself, \u201cHow might the people around me be impacted by how I manage my big emotions? How might they\/I experience the aftermath?\u201d<\/em> And use these questions to figure out a way to move forward. If you still find it difficult to manage big feelings, you may find that reaching out to a therapist<\/a> o joining a support group<\/a> could provide perspective to help you deal with your emotions.<\/p>\n <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Everyone deals with strong emotions, especially negative ones.\u00a0 This could be dealing with a disappointment at work or breaking up with a partner. You are not alone in these experiences and how they may make you feel out of control. Strong emotions can come up even when something small happens. For example, if someone is … <\/p>\nWhat does not dealing with my emotions feel like?<\/h2>\n
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