{"id":213274,"date":"2024-10-22T14:09:09","date_gmt":"2024-10-22T18:09:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/screening.mhanational.org\/?post_type=article&p=213274"},"modified":"2025-11-18T17:37:01","modified_gmt":"2025-11-18T22:37:01","slug":"people-dont-want-me-to-be-sober","status":"publish","type":"article","link":"https:\/\/screening.mhanational.org\/es\/content\/people-dont-want-me-to-be-sober\/","title":{"rendered":"La gente no quiere que est\u00e9 sobrio."},"content":{"rendered":"

There\u2019s incredible pressure from others\u2014even family, friends, and coworkers\u2014to use or drink when we are trying to be sober. We may be teased, harassed, called boring for opting not to participate in party culture, skipping happy hours, or turning down a drink. And some people may even get angry or feel slighted by our commitment to sobriety and being substance-free.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s hard being the only sober person around,<\/a> but it\u2019s possible. You have to separate yourself and be your own cheerleader. Holding on to the reasons you want to be substance-free\u2014your why\u2014will help you when you are surrounded by people and situations that challenge your sobriety. It takes work, honesty, and self-reflection to remain sober around temptation, but you can do it.<\/p>\n

Committing to your personal stability<\/h2>\n

It takes a lot of strength to resist temptation and remain sober when the people and environment around you make it difficult. But figuring out and sticking to your why will keep you focused on your path to sobriety and recovery. Your por qu\u00e9 <\/em>could be your health\u2014physical or mental, your future, your children, or any other reason you want to be free from substances. You define what your why looks like and create boundaries to protect it.<\/a> This will be a source of your strength when life puts challenges in your way.<\/p>\n

Once you feel like making this change in your life is worthwhile, you’ll realize you probably have to cut ties <\/a>o establecer l\u00edmites<\/a> around certain people who are not supportive of your new goals and way of life. This isn\u2019t an easy thing to do, and you may experience a lot of grief, sadness, and overwhelm. It\u2019s okay to both miss people, but also acknowledge that they can\u2019t be a part of your life if they don’t respect your boundaries and your recovery journey.<\/p>\n

After that, realize and find people who respect your boundaries and support your recovery. Going outside of your known community of family, friends, loved ones, and others is scary and isolating. It\u2019s difficult to be vulnerable and meet new people, but it is worth it in the long run. You can start with the internet\u2014 read stories and watch others\u2019 experiences on YouTube or social media.\u00a0 When you are ready, attending recovery support groups like AA<\/a> o NA<\/a> or others is so valuable. Building rituals in new settings is important. Creating new habits plus finding community is what helps us stick to goals.<\/p>\n

Hold on to the positive<\/h2>\n

When you see the positive, really sit in that positive<\/a>. Our instinct is to diminish our accomplishments and focus on our failures. But finding a new life means giving yourself that credit to stay in it when what you’re doing is breaking up with everyone you know.<\/p>\n

You can hold on to the positive in several different ways:<\/p>\n