{"id":229285,"date":"2025-02-05T15:28:58","date_gmt":"2025-02-05T20:28:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/screening.mhanational.org\/?post_type=article&p=229285"},"modified":"2025-11-18T17:59:30","modified_gmt":"2025-11-18T22:59:30","slug":"what-if-my-partner-and-i-are-both-in-recovery","status":"publish","type":"article","link":"https:\/\/screening.mhanational.org\/es\/content\/what-if-my-partner-and-i-are-both-in-recovery\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfQu\u00e9 pasa si mi pareja y yo estamos ambos en recuperaci\u00f3n?"},"content":{"rendered":"

One advantage of having a partner in recovery is that you are able to understand each other. You are both going through your own recovery journeys at the same time, so you may be able to offer support, knowing, and understanding experiences that others can\u2019t.<\/p>\n

But you must continue to go through your own recovery. It\u2019s not easy\u2014you always want to help your partner, but you can\u2019t help them completely when you\u2019re trying to help yourself. You can\u2019t do recovery for your partner, and they can\u2019t do recovery for you. You both must set clear boundaries and respect those boundaries<\/a>. This means not pressuring each other to use or drink or putting each other in triggering or activating situations<\/a>.<\/p>\n

If you and your partner are both in recovery,\u00a0 it\u2019s important that both of you continue on your independent recovery journeys, maintain boundaries, and make sure your relationship is healthy.<\/p>\n

Stay focused on your own recovery<\/h2>\n

You and your partner might be on different levels and in different places in your recovery. There\u2019s a fine line between helping and codependency<\/a>\u2014and the line depends on the person and the relationship. It\u2019s possible to lose yourselves in trying to help each other. This is a difficult balancing act to maintain because it\u2019s hard to help someone else with their recovery when you are working through your own.<\/p>\n

You have to work your own recovery\u2014even within your relationship. You both have to let each other go your path, have your own people, and your own meetings. The best way to support your partner through their recovery is to work your own. Lean on your coping skills toolbox<\/a> and your support system\u2014friends from meetings<\/a>, un especialista en recuperaci\u00f3n entre pares<\/a>, your sponsor, etc.<\/p>\n

Being focused on your recovery will help you be more stable in times of crisis\u2014for example if your partner relapses<\/a> or you experience loss or hardship<\/a>. You staying strong in your recovery can also be motivating and an example for your partner to stay strong in their own journey.<\/p>\n

Create a plan<\/h2>\n

Though both you and your partner are doing your best in recovery, it\u2019s important to prepare and plan for the worst-case scenario. Truthfully, sometimes we fall down on our recovery journeys. Sometimes the relationship doesn\u2019t work out. Keep in mind that losing each other is a possibility too. But if you have a plan in place, then you are more likely to get through whatever comes your way.<\/p>\n

Here are some things to consider when putting together a plan for relapse or crisis:<\/p>\n