{"id":2527,"date":"2020-10-19T18:27:33","date_gmt":"2020-10-19T18:27:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/screening.mhanational.org\/article\/my-coping-skills-arent-working-anymore\/"},"modified":"2023-07-07T17:02:22","modified_gmt":"2023-07-07T21:02:22","slug":"my-coping-skills-arent-working-anymore","status":"publish","type":"article","link":"https:\/\/screening.mhanational.org\/es\/content\/my-coping-skills-arent-working-anymore\/","title":{"rendered":"Mis habilidades para afrontar los problemas ya no funcionan."},"content":{"rendered":"

We all have coping skills that we rely on to feel better during tough times. If your go-to techniques just aren\u2019t working anymore, you\u2019re not alone.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s frustrating and scary to hit a wall with your coping skills\u2014but it\u2019s also normal. It would be so nice if we could just pick one set of coping skills and use them forever. But the truth is, that rarely works. We learn and grow. We adapt to new situations. That\u2019s not a bad thing! You can mourn the loss of some coping skills, while also finding opportunities to learn new ones.<\/p>\n

Why did my coping skills stop working?<\/h2>\n

You may have heard that different things work for different people<\/a>. But different things also work for the same<\/em> person at different times<\/em>. Anything that changes our thoughts, emotions, or situations<\/strong> can change the way our coping skills work.<\/p>\n

Some of those changes are personal: You break up with someone. You move to a new place. Your body develops a tolerance for your antidepresivos<\/a>, and they\u2019re not as effective as they used to be.<\/p>\n

Other changes affect millions of people all at once. The COVID-19 pandemic forever changed the way we work and go to school. Many people woke up to racial tensions and injustices that they had ignored for a long time. When the world changes, a whole generation can suddenly lose their old coping skills, and have to learn new ones.<\/p>\n

Even in “ordinary” times, some of your coping skills may not always be available. Your friends and family might live far away. You may not be able to afford a fancy vacation or a spa day. Other strategies, like journaling or texting a friend, are almost always doable. Make sure you have a variety of coping skills. That way, no matter what’s going on in your life, you have algo<\/em> you can do to improve your mental health<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Learning new coping skills\u2014and giving old ones a second chance<\/h2>\n

If strategies that worked in the past are no longer working, consider the flip side: the strategies that haven\u2019t<\/em> worked in the past may work now! Whenever you hit a wall with your coping strategies, you can add more. This might seem overwhelming if you feel like you\u2019ve tried it all. But remember, the situation you\u2019re coping with right now is different from ones you\u2019ve coped with in the past. It\u2019s only natural that your coping skills will change, too.<\/p>\n

If you tried meditating<\/a> a few years ago and didn\u2019t find it helpful, think about giving it another chance. The same goes for skills like breath work, yoga, spending time outside, practicing gratitude, and any other coping strategy. Small things can and do help in the long run, like sticking to a routine and setting boundaries for yourself.<\/p>\n

Treat yourself with kindness<\/h2>\n

You may also want to learn more about practicing\u00a0autocompasi\u00f3n<\/a> and acceptance. It\u2019s okay to acknowledge that you\u2019re reaching your limit\u2014even if that means you have no more energy to call a friend, or that you\u2019re losing your patience with your family. Constantly pushing yourself to \u201cbe fine\u201d often adds more stress and frustration. There isn\u2019t one right way to deal with life. Give yourself permission to find your own path!<\/p>\n

Las estrategias que te funcionan no tienen por qu\u00e9 tener sentido para los dem\u00e1s.<\/p>\n