Overcoming Thoughts

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In this activity, you will learn skills to overcome a thought you struggle with. With practice, you can integrate these skills into your life, helping you gain greater control over your thoughts and actions.

Work on other common thoughts. Click on the thought you’d like to work on below to start.

What Others Are Saying

  1. Why do I always feel the need to take the blame for everything?
  2. Wanting to die
  3. My dad needed to be kingdom minded when it came to my graduation and stupid fellowship event, but not kingdom minded when it came down to taking a job that required him to miss church half the time.
  4. i hate my life
  5. Worthless
  6. I think I want to break up with my boyfriend
  7. Lies
  8. struggling to live when everyone else's counting on me. i've given up on everything because it's hurting me to even live anymore.
  9. i'm scared about money
  10. Helping someone I care about
  11. I don't want to go to class
  12. I don't want to live anymore.
  13. fghj
  14. fghjk
  15. thinking i’m not enough
  16. scared
  17. scared
  18. Everything I want is a contradiction
  19. I want to die
  20. I just don't enjoy things anymore
  21. I hate myself and I hate my life and everyone in my life hates me and I really, really want to die.
  22. I’m tired
  23. I make everyone’s lives harder. I am not enough
  24. My husband does not love me and I do not feel appreciated as a mother
  25. I make everything harder
  26. all of them
  27. How do I fix my mistakes? How can I help someone else be happy when I'm not happy? How does he love me? How can he put up with all my shit and all my problems without complaining? How can he stand to be with me when I'm a total psycho? I'm psychologically ill and he still loves me.
  28. A great deal has happened since I last used this website. I've been struggling a lot more with porn, I'm regressing more and more back to my old ways and my parents give me more trouble and make me lose my identity more, all the things I've learned that I'm trying to keep and hold on to. Recently, My parents and I went to a family counselor, Mr. Shanon Thomas, the same counselor I went to a while back to help with what I've been struggling with. He didn't help me with it, really. He did help me with my family trouble. I told him the truth, that I was afraid that they were narcissistic and what Dad did to Daniel during Thanksgiving break. He understood. It feels reassuring. However, I'm still not being the real me. I will ask God and Jesus to heal me so I can be the real, true, authentic me. I've been having trouble getting my thoughts out, recently. I've been going along with so many terrible lies that now it seems as if I'm having trouble being able to stop these things in my mind, like the real me can. God, please heal me so that I can stop these things. God, please heal me so I don't believe all these terrible lies and so I don't go along with all of these terrible lies and all of these bad things that I've been giving into.
  29. I want to kms
  30. im scared that it wont work out and that he isnt attracted to me
  31. I have no future
  32. I don’t care
  33. hi
  34. Hi
  35. Hi
  36. I’m a mess
  37. yea
  38. Job
  39. Fear
  40. No sense of identity
  41. Don't like my body
  42. There is no reason to live
  43. I am afraid of losing my partner and my job
  44. Emotional numbness
  45. I feel empty inside and I don't know why.
  46. I'm struggling to be there for my friend. I hope i could be her so I could tak away all her pain and she would all right. I'd suffer and die but I'd alright with it.
  47. Financial and future
  48. today i can say im okay, but theres just not even one day without stress. im stressing myself a lot everyday but i try to think but something else and that works. bad thoughts come back as always but i keep doing the same thing all over again. i feel like others dont go through the same things i do, because they seem fine they have fun and a lot of friends and they are actually living their life not just being physically here and dead inside. i will sound a little bit selfish, but hearing them saying how they hate life because they dont have anyone. literally you have a lot of people in your life, you have a whole family that loves you, you are pretty which makes everything easier for you. meanwhile im here knowing i want to die and accepted it and how everyone hates me ignores me a dont have anyone or wont have anyone. you have a whole life that is in front of you but i dont. and i accepted it i mean yes it kinda makes me sad but like i said i accepted it im okay with it i wont try to change it anymore. if it changes ten it changes. i guess we really dont know whats happening in others people lives. we cant judge them but i gotta say it made me feel like no one really knows me which is actually true. someone told me a dont let people close to me and i was like yeah i already know bad not thing about it too much but then i really started thing about it and wow. i wasnt my whole life like this, i dont let people close to me because ive been hurt as a child a lot with this stuff, like letting people close to me and loving them with my whole heart but that person always realized im not enough and they found someome else it ended up me being sad and alone watching that one i loved leaving me for someone else- well thats why i feel like i dont matter and that everyone will leave me. that i will never be enough. thats why i dont let people close to e, everoyne will hurt me and leave me anyway so why try. i dont even let my family close to me. thats has been bothering me last time- how im not close to my family. not to my aunts uncles cousins.... just nothing. i dont have that relationship with them like i should have. i want but iat te same time i dont. i dont feel comfortable around them because i barely speak to the, feels like he is the only chance. i dont want to put pressure on him. dont want him to feel like he has to save me or something, but i know he can save me. i wont tell him that. if things dont work out he will think its his fault because he could save me.
  49. today i realized something.. i was laughing at something like videos or i was just on my phone and something made me laugh. for a few min i forgot all the horrible things that are happening. because i forgot it made me think how im doing better maybe i was overreacting or maybe im not that sure about my death but them booom.... i closed my phone and all the reality came back. the thing i realized is no im not better that was just a second of feeling no anxiety. my point is thats not a real life watching a video that will make you laugh then back to reality. to that sad anxious horrible everyday reality. i accepted that i dont want to live anymore and i want my life to end. it is my decision right.
  50. I don't enjoy anything
  51. my teacher is an asshole
  52. I am not good enough
  53. Please
  54. im not a good person, worthless and i dont really deserve to complain about anything, im a terrible person and people just dont know that, im sure everyone secretly hates me deep down in their hearts, but they just put up w me, they 'tolerate' my presence, tho i always act good and that deceives them,, esp my friends into thinking im a good person, they 'love' me but they wont anymore if they knew the true me,, im vile and disgusting and im just waiting for them to figure out how horrible i am so they could finally see the true me and leave me as they should.
  55. I've mostly accepted that I'm not fine and that's OK, there's no real need to be fine. Though life does get quite dull at times, especially when you have high intelligence, since it causes you to wonder and look up things. Ignorance is bliss they say.. Anyway to anyone reading this or to future me, it still feels like I'm on the curve up so that's good. Although I must say it does get quite boring in life, especially in the weekends when you want to do something, but have no one to do it with, making you feel like not doing it, which in turn brings you down. My advice to future me or anyone else reading this and feeling similarly, you might think "oh I'm only distracting myself from my sadness" and while that may be true, is that really so bad? If it makes you happy I say do it, you miss every shot you don't take. But also remember to get time for yourself if you need it. That's it for this time, Tils signing out! ☺️
  56. I've experienced some stuff online, i could talk about it to the people i know, and i dont think they would dislike me for it, its just... I don't think they would ever really see me in the same way, and the fun experiences wouldn't ever feel the same again either..
  57. I hate myself. I hate— I want to—Not allowed to say that. You know what. I want to you know what.
  58. I feel empty
  59. Something really humiliating happened to me today and I can't stop thinking about it. Also, on a more serious note that should be my number one priority but my brain doesn't work that way, my friend told me they really, seriously, genuinely want to kill themselves, and the last time they were like that they were hospitalized for a long time. Also also, my sibling hasn't said a word to me in a month and they matter more than anyone else in the world, and I love them so much, and they ARE my world and my reason for not killing myself, and they've decided to pretend I don't exist and I can't deal with it.
  60. My family is pretending I don't exist. My life makes me miserable. I can only see it getting worse from here. I want to be dead.
  61. WW III
  62. I feel really unahppy
  63. even worse than before? no i dont think so.. just the same thing over and over again. everytime i get power i start to do things trying to be okay telling myself i can do this and how strong i am at the end of it i alwayes end up like this, why god wont give me one thing i really want and need? just this one thing god please take me away from here i cant do this anymore. i have nightmares about dissapointing poeple and them being mad at me and me being a failure. i wake up and instantly start crying. i just cry with the feeling that i cant do anything about it anymore or maybe i could but i really dont want anymore. all i want is to leave this i want dont want to live. really no. why god? i know maybe you see my future or maybe its not my time yet. but whatever my future is... i give up on it. i dont want it anymore...i dont want to be here. im just doing problems to the people i love. theyre mad at me for everything. breathing, talking... honestly im tired of mmyself talking and breathing. even it looks like he doesnt care anymore so im done. is the only one who truly loves me god? when i cant even do that to myself? im begging him to take me away from here. please.
  64. My mind races at night and I can’t seem to slow it down to enjoy anything. I go and go and go during the day and then at night I am bored and nothing feels super engaging to my brain. It comes and goes and I will pick up a hobby for a week or a month or a year and then get bored and move on to something else. Lately it’s been much worse.
  65. Self image
  66. I can't pass as a guy; my chest and my voice continue to make me more likely to start crying and not want to go outside because of how people perceive me.
  67. Suicide
  68. Que me quede sola al terminar mi relación.
  69. I hate being alone but all I ever end up doing is pushing people away or hurting the people I love. I want to change because everyone says I'm a good person on the inside, but my emotions cause me to do things I never should do.
  70. self-esteem, letting people go, anxiety, being happy
  71. self worth isolation stress
  72. what if I can't do it? What if I fail again?
  73. future parent
  74. I'm not being as attentive and good as I have before.
  75. i am very depressed about my relationship i feel like im a nobody that i should not be on this earth,i am struggling finacally and physically and emotionally and mentally eeryday
  76. I'm struggling with the idea that I have to accept less in my love life and settle just because I want someone to love me and I don't have the right to be picky.
  77. im staring to count caloris and avoi food, i have fear that the only person that i like in my school get tried of me and im lonly cus all my friends left my school
  78. my friends make me feel bad and like i have just a void in my stomash, i know that thaey realy need me because they are pasing a bad moment but i just wanna leve them
  79. Suicide anger grustration
  80. Life isn’t really worth ANY effort anymore so why bother with ANYTHING? Why try to do better?
  81. My life, pay present and future. From work, home, family, kids, spouse, financial, stability, paranoia
  82. if i only listened to my family i wouldnt have been sexual assaulted
  83. my family doesnt really want me around
  84. i can't stop thinking about my future and myself,i've been too sad and i cry all the time i feel lonely in many ways
  85. i've been overthinking about myself, i don't feel good with it, i realized that i have to change many things but i don't like to talk with anyone,it's hard for me i'm 18 years old, i'm not working and i don't know what to do with many things i feel lost becuase i've never have a fahter before and i think that, that is something makes me feel like that
  86. Emotional stressed out
  87. I feel ugly all the time. I always try to rush to my seat because I don’t want people looking at me too much. I feel fat and that no one will every find me attractive or pretty in a romantic way. I feel unlovable.
  88. Grieving the loss of a 21 year marriage.
  89. hopeless
  90. Empezar la secundaria
  91. To hat there's no one who really cares about me.
  92. im failing at being a mother
  93. I am feeling very depressed.....I hate my body....I feel very dull and empty....I'm not happy
  94. My anxiety and depression are going to come back and it will so hard to go away this time
  95. How am I going to make ends meet
  96. being suicidal. im tryna get better (quit self-harm, having a normal eating habit, etc)
  97. depression, dissociation, anxiety disorder, and possibly others
  98. Anger
  99. survival mode
  100. I have so many thoughts spinning in my head like a wheel game that won’t stop I don’t know what I think anymore
  101. why do i cry when people yell at me?
  102. Suicide
  103. My relationship
  104. my body is what's bringing me down the most.
  105. my thighs are so thick and fat
  106. I think everyone I love hates me
  107. I feel like I've been pressured from all sides, be it my family, my friends, or even my higherups. Yes, living as a student isn't half bad, at least I could distract myself with any work available such as getting into an organization. But then it never made me feel relieved. It distracts me for a short while.